“… I realized that I have put myself in a box. Even worse is the reality that my deepest desires lie on the other side of the box.”
When one attempts to solidify their physical goals more and more they may realize the tendency to shy away from what they truly desire. They may find these limiting beliefs come up, limiting beliefs that they were unaware existed. Mabey this is because we often assume that it is not possible for us to get what we truly want, and in this case that we can get the body that we have always dreamt of. I found myself sitting across a college friend as we zip along on the LIRR in NYC and she tells me about her recent weight loss and her goals. She admits that she has spent two years working on it and that she still had a long way to go. None the less she seemed content with her progress. She was down 80 lb’s so far and still had 30 left to go. She tells me she wants to reach 110 lb’s. She is 5’ 3 inches tall, only an inch shorter then I was. I then think to myself “Wow i would love to weigh 115 lb’s” and shortly after that I think “then why isn’t my goal to weigh 115 lb’s, why is it 150 or 140 lb’s”. I thought about it and realized that quite a few thoughts were hanging out in the back of my mind pulling me down without me being fully aware of it.
When one has a limiting belief they should isolate them
“I can never go from 247 to 115 lb’s and maintain it thats impossible”
“I can never really look good outside of clothes if I lost that much weight anyway, whats the point?”
“I’ll have so many stretch marks and sagging skin, why bother if I wont be perfect.”
“I will never be able to eat so little on a consistent basis to maintain such a low weight”
“I can never REALLY get over my bad eating habits.”
“Thats 135 lbs of weight loss, IT WILL TAKE FOREVER!”
“I wasent meant to be that hot girl.”
I think the last one is the most tragic of the seven. On the outside I am so quick to tell myself that I can do anything that I put my mind to, but deep down I realized that I have put myself in a box. Even worse is the reality that my deepest desires lie on the other side of the box.
The thing that I quickly realized after writing all of these beliefs down and reviewing them is the fact that most of the things that I believe deep down are contestable.
When one has a limiting belief they should challenge them
“Is it true that I can’t change my habits long term?”
“If my friend spent two years reaching her goals then why can’t I?”
“Do I really need to starve daily to weight 115lbs?”
And most importantly
“Why can’t I be the attractive woman that I have always dreamt of being?”
The thing is, there are plenty of women out there who have reached these goals. I don’t need to use my imagination too much to see how my goals are possible. I have people to look up to. I am no Roger Bannister. It is with this knowledge that I can go on confidently. Because nothing is more detrimental to reaching one’s goals then second guessing them.